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“A really strong woman accepts the war she went through and is ennobled by her scars.” Carly Simon

I have finally grown into my best bitch self, and I am good with that. You may think of bitch as a bad thing, but I don’t.

As I have come to know, a bitch as a strong woman with clear boundaries that is tenacious, I like her. Bitch does not compare herself to the women that surround her. She is not afraid to fall or to fail because she has done both. She is tough as nails and won’t back down. Going after what one wants against the odds, the obstacles will not disturb the bitch, she fears them not.

 She can be soft and use her feminine wiles,because she is smart and knows how to bless herself and those around her with that exact combination. A good bitch, so to speak, possess the power of a ‘Kind Queen’.

Women get bad raps for going after men’s roles in work. They get called names at the water cooler and beyond. No matter how strong you are, mean words cut. It is important to support our fellow women; emancipation is not complete. The me-too movement has just begun.The more solidarity we have, the stronger our voices will be.

Support your female friend, send them encouragement. Create a safe space to bitch, vent, bemoan, exercise your right to let it out. Then move on, do not get trapped in a bad space.

Even in today’s modern world ‘The bitch’ has been portrayed as a bad thing. I am not so sure maybe the bitch in her (or him) will drive her to accomplish, complete, hang onto her dreams a bit harder. Maybe the feisty in the female is what we need? We understand our soft side, let’s get in touch with our strong side. No matter what we call it we are all just trying day to day to figure it out. Big picture or small picture let’s find our voice, this is no time to be shy.

I had been on the outside of women clan shunned, when I was a single mom. Read more in my book “A Man For every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love”.

Now my journey looks much differently I gather together with women that love books, wine, prayer, and support. Within the sacred confines of fellow females often times lies a safe place.  Purging can look like a bitch session, letting out all that is trapped inside. Let it be real, fun and honest. Trust should lie between your girl group, you are all goddesses, and your feminine energy,  can be powerful, healing, and enlightening.

If being a bitch means having a voice then speak up! Understanding body language and tonal quality land a stronger meaning. Kind coolness with a direct communication. I no longer will be shut down, some may choose to disagree, or not listen, and that is perfectly fine.

Cheers to all the strong women of the world that will never give up. To those who run from wrong and stand up for what they feel is right. If you are a bitch be the good bitch of the north and all will be right in the land of female love. Bitches can be kind, kindness should be with us always.

My Mantra: “It is always a blessing to support our fellow women”