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“Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others.” Wayne Dyer

Sheltering in place has created more changes to our world that we have yet to understand. The implications of closing down our lives and asking us to stay at home reaches far into many corners.

How about relationships at home? Have you discovered by spending day in and day out with your partner that it’s clearly driving you bonkers? Bubbling to the surface what may have worked before, is not working now? Before you look for another place to live take a few things into consideration.

I’ve noticed emotions can run high when the world around us shuts down. When the news is beating us up with reports that contradict themselves. Pounding us with records of death and illness. Panic and alarm, a part of our new normal. Feeling sexy may seem difficult when the world around us is on its ear.

It is a strange thing when people buy tons of toilet paper. By the way, toilet paper is not part of survival.. We are now in a world where we put on masks to go to the bank? That seems like a scene from a movie to me.

In this bizarre and new world, it may push buttons within ourselves, and within our relationships.

Note the fear that may be stirring. Look at what triggers you and why? Communicate openly with your partner. Give grace and real listening to how they may be feeling. Hear them, do not try to fix or change them. Do not compare another story with theirs, just be ears and heart for them. The more empathy we can give the more we can receive.

At our very worst moments, learning how to do better will prove to have great value.

However, if your relationship was already tipping in the wrong direction being sheltered together can force an end to happen sooner than later. Divorce rates skyrocketed in China. Makes sense to me, taking us out of our routine can bring us in front of a mirror we may have wanted to avoid.

 No matter where you are in the relationship world, in our new now world, try to find a you that you may not have known before shelter in place. Maybe that you could use healing, inspiration, love, or a greater understanding of potential.

If a relationship is heading to the end. Know there are ways to break up with respect and healing. I am offering free 15 minute coaching if you would like to schedule, perhaps I can help, you are not alone!

My Mantra: “Lessons have come from sheltering in place”