“Being a mother is a little like ‘Groundhog’s Day.’ It’s getting out of bed and doing the exact same things again and again and yet again – and it’s watching it all get undone again and again and yet again. It’s humbling, monotonous, mind-numbing, and solitary.” Glennon Doyle Melton
Does it seem as if the next day is a repeat of the last day? Bill Murry in “Groundhog Day”, the movie, repeats the same day over again until he learns his lesson. Is that what all of our lives are? Understanding our lesson so we can get to the next day, a different day, a different job, or love, or life?
It feels like every day seems just like the last, but why?
Can I do anything to not feel like Bill Murry in Groundhog Day? Is there a lesson for me that I can not see? Maybe our lives had always been a bit of repetition of the next? Maybe the concept is not so far off as it is more obvious.
My revelation, huge ah-ha moments, occurred when I was writing my book, a reflection of my journey through love and relationship with men and how I fit into the whole deal. I did not know how I fit. I continued to date, marry, divorce, and stay single. I just kept trying; I had to find out. I went through dating Groundhog Day. What I learned was that it was really never about them. It was about me every time.
Do we have to keep making the same mistakes until our lesson is learned? Do we just change partners only to find the same issues show up?It was never about Mr. Next Guy. It was about why I attracted and allowed Mr. Next Guy. It was way easier to blame the obvious jerk. It was much trickier to see that it was me all along, a great mirror reflecting the truth of me. Was that my Groundhog Day of Truth? When we learn what our deal is, we have an opportunity to shift, change, and not repeat the same mistakes.
My love life is more certain being married is not a snap; it is a different challenge is also a journey. My life is more certain. However, lessons are as big as they ever were. The lessons do not disappear with “I do”. We still shine a light on what needs to be learned that can be internally full of strife or gratitude. Both are embraceable in the riddled-filled pathway we call life, relationships, and love.
If all of your days look like the last one, you are not alone. The world, perhaps, has always been Groundhog Daying us all!
Try something new. Read, walk, take up online yoga, take up online learning, and journal your past relationships. Failure is the road to success; make a sharp left and follow your heart; it was there all along. Read my book full of fun, dating, and lessons.
My Mantra: “Finding out ‘you’ in relationships will launch much freedom.”