“If a guy treats me respectfully and the waiter demeaningly, I’m turned off.” Moran Atias
Do I need to make a list of gripes to other dating or non-dating ladies? Guys that no matter how cute they are… I will not drop my panties for these dudes!
The things I have come across that annoy me are as follows:
Guys that talk about themselves. I mean you can’t get a word in edgewise. He is so fabulous and he knows it. Just enough to tell any captive audience that will listen. These dudes it is hard to just sit there and try to pretend you want to hear more.
The fork-tong-devil guy, Mr. Smooth talker. Liars are unattractive and the worst. No way will I last with a guy who can’t keep his story straight. This dude I would never feel safe with how could I? He is Mr. Untrustworthy.
The guy who talks down about his ex and is full of venomous distain. He may have more than one ex he “blames” his circumstances on. This guy to me is worse than bragger dude. Stuck in his sad story, I’ll pass. This guy is hanging onto being a victim, not attractive. I don’t want to be the next fodder of his complaints.
The guy who doesn’t like his mom and can easily admit it. Some girl thinks she can love him past his ‘Mom’ issues she can have at it, but the issues he possesses started long-long ago and not in the fairytale meaning of the phrase. Pass. I’d take a momma’s boy over that.
Forget about the guy who is rude. Looks at strangers and make snide remarks. Short fused to old people, animals, crying babies, impatient in his driving. This guy has anger issues. Forget it, rough and rude, not my dude!
Down on his luck, no motivation, in-between jobs… Yikes, how long has it been and how many jobs has he been let-go from? Good guys figure out how to take care of business, they figure out how life works.
The guy who has “one” foot in but appears to be “all” in. This one is tricky and elusive. He is convincing and introduces you as “his” girlfriend. However, he has kept his online dating profile, even if it’s inactive, he gives it a gander every now and again. This dude is hard to peg because for the most part it seems like the real deal. Yet in his man-mind he’s shopping you out at every corner. That means he’s formulated a well-staged exit plan that exists within the wall of his frightened heart. I’ve dated Mr. scaredy-pants the non-marring guy.
Too easy guy. No back bone, push over, gives away his balls to a controlling girl. Puppy-like he is way too eager. He cannot live without you and that’s not sexy. He may feel more like a man-child then a grown man. He will allow women to run the show making outlandish or moderate requests he will do his best to fulfill to spite him being short changed, or feelings of unworthiness.
Emphatically off any girls list is a guy who will not respect you, hold up your dreams, inspire you, love your friends and family. A guy who wants more from you than what you are and tries to change you.
The ideal guy might be a good guy that is not that good looking. Notice if he is a good guy, give him a second chance, then a third. Remembering to be strong with who you are. That is the winning combination.
I’ve weeded through the good and the turn-off guys.
Let’s hear it for the good guys! Sister, they are out there!
My Mantra: “I am grateful to realize the qualities of a good guy”