HOW BRENE BROWN MADE ME MORE VULNERABLE?

“Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.” Brene Brown

Being a fan of Brene’s books, it was easy to tune into Netflix. Like watching a Ted Talk until something clicked, with Brene I clicked.

I thought wearing armor was brave. A brave warrior dressed in clad no one could really know me. I could be on the battlefield and hide, right? Wrong!… and Ms. Brown told me loud and clear. Being courageous has to do with being vulnerable, real, authentic. Being alright with failing because if you are trying, you will fail.

Exposing one’s true self can be terrifying, knowing we are being judged. Who wants that? No one. However, Brene says no one has permission to judge her unless they are on the battlefield. Unless they are fighting the fight, and are in fact exposed. Her ah ha moment, was Teddy Roosevelt, she now knows how to dare greatly. I highly recommend her book “Daring Greatly”.

 With no bravery and great ease, I hid in relationships. I morphed into their life and found myself shrinking to fit into the land of love. Trying to see if I could be what I was not… in order to be loved, in their world, their program, to somehow be able to have success in an intimate relationship.

All wrong, I needed to learn to trust my vulnerability. To create and fail, to love and fail, to aim at dreams only to see them squashed. Learning to pivot when needed without self-flagellation.

Here Ms. Brown was doing her deal on stage aired by Netflix. Teaching me how to be strong in being myself. Making me face the painful fact that my key is to stop hiding is to be utterly vulnerable.

Being able to successfully communicate “the story in my head is saying…”. No one can guess the pain monster that is whirling your thoughts, nor should they. It is vital to trust enough to share your fear. Oftentimes unfounded within relationships.

My book about dating, love, and changing partners is vulnerable, however cleverly hides behind a “story”. Are there lessons and laughter in that story? Hell yes, and good ones! Reflecting my daring greatly, charging ahead because I am in the arena and am not willing to give up. My voice wants to be shared with others. If I can help one, I have helped one hundred.

Thank you Brene Brown for daring greatly and sharing powerful insights with the world. Perfection dose not exist, however what you have gifted the world, will perfectly impact those with a heart to hear and who are brave enough to try.

See you in the ring!

My Mantra: “Thank you Ms. Brown, being real has made me brave in myself”