“Equality is like gravity. We need it to stand on this earth as men and women.” Joss Whedon

Sweet woman trying to prove themselves but at the end of the day why? Seeking approval of others seems obvious. Competing in modern society trying to keep up with the big boys. Or shouting out I am not a man, nor do I need a man. I can do it myself damnit. The complexities of the sexes are not a brief blog; a thesis or dissertation, or a series of books, this is not that.

This is my observation of girlfriends wanting to succeed in their business, and have it all. Love, family, and a start-up company but… how do you do that if you’re a woman? I am not sorry to point out that there is different for girls and guys, there just is. Even with an increase of stay-at-home-dads, the rat race is tougher for a woman.

 Us women just seem to pick up the pieces all the time. Tidy the house make the bed while doing the laundry. Our list can be as important as it is mundane. But our lists count, right? A ridiculous question, but if there are tons of women trying to do it all and collapsing at the end of the day like an over-flown hummingbird… is it a ridiculous question?

This battel of the sexes and the overtired female will not be solved in one blog. However, perhaps it is work within? Why did said woman choose to be that driven? What part inside is seeking approval? Is it the little girl left behind because she couldn’t throw a ball? Is she trying to uphold herself and feels she will always be chasing after that approval? Does she need to compete to feel complete?

Often times we run around trying to fit in, to be accepted, to be admired. To what extent? Where along the road did we lose ourselves? Lose our own self-approval? Is it a matter of digging deep and letting go? I am grateful for the driven female species without them we would not have Oprah Winfrey, Ellen DeGeneres and many more.

I am excited to share my book with the world, but knowing that how much of a driven female did I have to become? Deep inside of me I knew this was something I had to do. I spent many long nights’ and weekends alone pushing to the next step. Then along came Karen Dickinson. She took me and the book on in order to make it happen.

Perhaps what us gals need to do is be grateful for all that is around us today. To focus on the positive and know we are safe and approved of as we are. That plates will keep spinning and we can choose how many we want over our heads. To take care of ourselves first is vital. That is important to reboot the over-driven female. Carve out selfish time. Find a way to spoil yourself. Life is short and what we make it. It is our life. We go to bed and wake up with ourselves every single night. Be happy in the you you wake up with. Let your project be just that a project. Let your life and who you are be the true importance.

My Mantra: “I can balance life and  take care of myself with ease”




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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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