Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
What if you could find happiness and love right now in this moment where you are? Self-compassion, self love, self-forgiveness. After all, I am waking up and going to sleep and dragging me everywhere I go. Be it good days, or bad there I am.
I have moved to a new town and feel a little lost, off balance, and off pudding. Lost at the home I am in, lost driving around, lost finding parking, lost finding friends, lost looking for love. I have to give myself grace. I am the one who choose to move. I have packed up and have taken me with me. Other than the location nothing has changed. Moving does not provide a cure for emotional, spiritual healing; these things exist inside of me.
I have a couple of friends that have been married for over thirty years. As it sometimes goes,in both of these instances the married couples have grown apart. In this one case, my friends has great determination for her own well-being. She has concluded she will not seek divorce so she set out seeking her own happiness. She is learning to tend to herself with great love and grace. Loving herself right where she is.
She is a great example for me. I am aware even though I may be going through changes, and things about myself I may want to tweak, it is ok to love and accept myself right where I am. Perhaps we are all in a process? No matter what healing may or may not need to take place. What if we could find love for ourselves right where we are? From what I can see self-compassion leads to compassion for others.
I’m feeling lost, I stubbed my toe, I have a headache, my weight and energy could improve. Wait! I can change the chatter in my thoughts away from the pity party.
“I love and accept myself even feeling lost, hurt toe, achy head and low energy” I can look up find gratitude and know this is me, this is today, I can even love myself now and I should. Showing myself love and tenderness helps me to move quickly past a downtrodden attitude. I can love myself right where I am, damn! That’s pretty great, and so simple. No matter what others have to deal with I can deal with myself. As they say on an airplane “Put your oxygen mask on first, then help your seatmate or child”
My Mantra “I am capable of loving myself at all times”