FINDING A BETTER ME… SELF-LOVE

Women with low self-esteem love bad boys. Women, who have work to do, love bad boys. Women who love themselves love good men.

Tracy McMillan

If I don’t love myself how can I expect some one else to love me? After all, it is all about love. How can I better love myself?

I have just distanced myself from an unhealthy relationship. Is it a good idea to be in a sad relationship with a man who cannot fully love me? No. As I am healing I am making better choices.

I can have fun with whatever I am doing if my spirit is free to do so. How do I free my spirit or my heavy healing heart?

Give myself grace and being aware of my feelings, respect the process. Feeling bad is ok if that is what I have to sort through at that moment. As long as I do not get stuck in that feeling, bad can be good.

My intentions are to focus on self. Sounds selfish huh? I have found through much trail and error that the better I take care of myself the better I can be to those around me. Wait! It is far easier to take care of those around me while neglecting myself. Perhaps that is innate? If you are or have been a parent you’ll know what I mean. Finding a balance is a must.

I can set out with a list of five things I will do to better to care for myself but the damn thing will sit half done mocking me. It is better for me to make a list of my successes. That will motivate me towards making my list grow, that is the opposite of making a list that mocks me.

If I can be in the moment, choosing things that bring me health and happiness. It might just be a simple as a gluten free peanut butter sandwich and a yoga class. Making progress towards self-love can be easy if I get excited over the small wins. Being okay with my progress, not to measure myself against someone else. Our journeys are all individual.

I understand that self-forgiveness will lead me to compassion towards others. Fun will lift my soul so others around me feel it. Getting rid of unnecessary clutter including sad, or bad, attitudes, negative thoughts; will free the space in my life and help me to be more centered.

Keeping old things in the refrigerator, car, or closet is mess. I am excited to live more simply to back away from the computer, clean out my confusion. Then take a long walk, find a dog to pet and have a healthy meal.

I think I may be on the road to taking better care of myself.

That is love.

My Mantra: “I can love myself and keep record of my successes”