“Man becomes man only by his intelligence, but he is man only by his heart.” Henri Frederic Amiel

Yo, who’s your daddy?

It is nice in a girl’s life to have unconditional “daddy-love”, where everything will turn out all right. Where you don’t really have to worry because daddy is there. It has been said that us girls are looking for our “daddy” in all of our future male relationships. Sitting on Santa’s lap and getting everything on our list because we’ve been good girls! The only stress was making the list; how sweet that was. As it should be for little girls.

All grown up and looking for, or in love? Well the days of pouncing on Daddy’s and or Santa’s lap are over. And for good reason. Father was a pivotal part of childhood. In a grown up world we need to put away childish ideas and step up. That love is set aside for the good dad that taught you how to ride a bike, drive a car, and had sleepless nights as you started to date.

We must look at being a strong partner if we are looking for a strong partner. No one will ever give us the same love as Dad, nor should they.

Even if your man is a wonderful bread winner he still wants a strong partner. One who can and does contribute in grown up fashion making an addition to the equation. Adult bimbo’s a bouncing is not attractive nor are they what an intelligent successful person wants to take care of. Perhaps for the weekend, (whatever), but after that no.

If you have “daddy issues” and apparently we all do. Try to work through them. Albeit consoling, or self-help. Our fathers are such a large figure that we need to put on glasses that help us see the human in our Pop and give ourselves and our Dad grace. Being a grown up is more fun, I swear!

Being confident in who you are. Yoga teacher, scientist, bank manager, sales clerk, whatever you do with your life do it with confidence. If you are “stuck” in a job that is less than ideal; try to find what you love about yourself and what you are doing. Gratitude changes everything. Confidence is sexy.

The sweetness in a relationship is when you both make one another better. You strive to be the best version of yourself and growing towards that is a natural occurrence. If you were lucky enough to have a kind Father, or encouraging male role model, we are blessed.  Answers never lie in the past, history yes. However, being present and looking towards gratitude, now that’s the ticket!

Happy Father’s Day to all the men who were loving fathers or took on the role of a supportive male role model. The positive effect you made on another’s life cannot be measured in thank you’s. Nor may never be seen. With a positive heart when you do good know that it has a ripple effect.

Thank you men who were loving Fathers… Happy Father’s Day!

My Mantra is a quote that inspired me: “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.” Muhammad Ali

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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