“Our most valuable resources – creativity, communication, invention, and reinvention – are, in fact, unlimited.” David Grinspoon

If reinvention is the intention you are in… you are not alone. Success is accompanied by failure. Placing heartfelt intentions towards things that did not take. I remember when…the journey of my choices seemed clearly questionable, especially with men. However, that is a different story, ready to read!

You were heading in one direction, then bam, a roadblock. Lose a job, a partner, a home, again bam, you need to find a new way. New town, new husband, new last name, new you? Where’s the damn lemons and a snot-nosed kid to make a stand?

If you can continue to reinvent yourself and what you are willing to try, possibilities are endless.

Albeit love, career, finding yourself, identity crisis, empty nesting, having children. After all, everything changes, right?

Change is our only certainty.

Maybe an unexpected ending is the beginning that was waiting for you. Sometimes, change can be like an unwelcome visitor; other times, it is a decision to try what may be waiting for you.

The expected ending of parenting and facing empty nesting sent me into a tailspin. I left my home, eventually moved to a different town, and published a book. Through much confusion, I forced changes that became my reinvention of self.

Begs the question. What will I be when I grow up?

I never thought I would be an author.  The still voice inside me became loud and then louder until I listened; I started and recognized the doors that opened. Before that voice, I faltered; I fumbled; I was a loser by Webster’s definition of the word. Failing, I was great at it. I had that system down and divorced twice. Single and empty nesting. Two divorces, three kids, and single motherhood do not cry out. Wow, she’s doing life the right way! I had to finish the book; it became as important as breathing.

Now I want to write more. Help people not to carry their stories as burdens. Publish my second book and start a book club. Bring dogs to the elderly to visit, professional closet organizer. Life will always offer possibilities; know your strengths and make a plan. One step at a time, go towards your dream.

It is never to late to try something that you feel passionate about.

Nola Ochs was an American woman from Jetmore, Kansas, who graduated from college in 2007 at age 95.

Bertha Wood, born in June 1905, had her first book, “Fresh Air and Fun: The Story of a Blackpool Holiday Camp,” published on her 100th birthday on 20 June 2005. The book is based on her memoirs, which she began writing at the age of 90!

George Kirby, 103, married his girlfriend of 27 years, Doreen Luckie, 91, in Eastbourne, England. It is never too late to marry your true love.
No one of us is any different than any one of them. It is a matter of listening to your heart. Following what you know is the right path for you. Wanting to help others along the way can be a driving force, a pivotal point. The smallest of changes can push you further than you ever thought you could go.

You find yourself utterly inspired; this inspiration is pounding a rhythm in your brain. They say the only thing you can fail at is not trying.

My Mantra: “Embrace change, for it may send your life into a world of wonder.”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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