“Boredom, anger, sadness, or fear are not ‘yours,’ not personal. They are conditions of the human mind. They come and go. Nothing that comes and goes is you.” Eckhart Tolle

Things are not what they should be. A shift in life is not always welcomed. A loss, a death, a move, a divorce. Things that shake you to the core. Things you may have no control over. You turn left instead of right and get t-boned. You were at the wrong place at the wrong time. They were not who you thought they were. Life is unfair to lose your best friend to cancer.

It feels like our world has been hit with much tragedy. Floods, fires, earthquakes, hurricanes, shootings. Awful events that can touch us even if they are not in our backyard. Human compassion is called for and helping others should be what we do. Even if we donate blood, clothes, or food. Reaching out to those in real need. These events can leave us with underline sorrow.

Sometimes I don’t have the fight in me, sometimes sadness can take me over like an unwelcomed invader. Sometimes sadness can show up without a solid reason. Driving through my pulse, thump, thump, thump, sorrow has arrived. I recognize it because I have suffered in a sorrowful state before. I can acknowledge it, that is the first step away from denial. I am good at helping others with their painful moments but with myself I falter.

With my sadness the most effective way for me to deal with it is to acknowledge it. Close my eyes and take a moment. I talk to my sadness like it can hear me. “Where are you in my body? What color and size?” I then ask sadness if it can shrink or move out of me. I am well aware this is a temporary visitor. I accept that I feel the way I do and then go about my day. My feelings can shift when I am able to make a gratitude list.  Negative feelings cannot survive blessings. Blessings, the super-tonic that will shift a woeful journey into a joyful one.

It is okay to have all the feelings we do. They sever as human purpose towards empathy and lessons.

If you have sadness that is temporary, I hope it is a guest that leaves quickly, it is not who you are, just what you’re going through. If your sadness persists, or is ongoing, please seek the help of a professional.

My Mantra: “I am blessed I can accept the feelings  that I go through”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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