“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” Corrie Ten Boom
When sadness hits me I can feel it all the way through to my bones. There it is, utter darkness. That sorrow can spin into jammies days. However, the world is going on around me, I have lists like everyone. Therefore, I have found ways to pull myself from inner despair. I am lucky I only experience that level of pain a couple of times a year for a long day or two.
- Eating something can modify my feelings pretty quickly. Especially if I have been too sad and my appetite has lost its way.
- A good night’s sleep can restore. I wake up a different girl. Repetitive negative thoughts are hard to fall asleep with. Knowing this I try my hardest to think of something light, personally grateful for. A friend of mine felt overwhelmed not able to find sleep, she recalled the movie “You’ve Got Mail” in her mind, to help her from worries to sleep.
- Call a girlfriend. Just hearing myself talk helps me to ease my way back. “I get by with a little help from my friends” The Beatles nailed that one.
- Watch a really funny movie. “Will and Grace” just makes me giggle.
- Walking, especially in nature or by the water. Walking by myself can reset my attitude. I imagine what other people’s lives are like in the homes I pass. Or I feel deeply the beauty of nature around me. The ocean or snow have a way of putting me in the moment.
- Borrow a dog to love on and take walking. My daughter is near me and will relinquish her furry love to me.
- Make soup. Having the home filled with the comfort of soup is yummy and smells good. I like vegetarian Tom Yum soup, I add coconut cream and rice noodles to.
- Burn a candle, take a bath. Afterwards putting on lipstick helps to put a shine on literally. Slip into clothes that are clean and don’t suggest I am just getting into or out of bed.
- Play music Tom Jones, I dare you.
- Read “Florence Shovel Shinn”.
- Clean out old clothes and donate them.
- A gratitude list, my next step to move forward, to take care of life, set goals. A love list, to myself, for myself.
I am also aware of how depression can grab hold and be serious. If you or a love one is unable to come out of sadness please seek professional care. You are not alone, doctors can help.
My Mantra: “However good or bad a situation it will change. Knowing that helps”
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