“If women ran the world we wouldn’t have wars, just intense negotiations every 28 days.” Robin Williams

Never underestimate the value of a good friend. Friends may see you through lovers, divorce, raising children. Our guidepost that can keep us in check. The shoulder to lean on. They can speak up and deliver hard words if we are out of line. The love of a good friend is immeasurable.

I moved to a new town. The friend factor was factoring in when I was going on eighteen months without a gal group. I have my girlfriends in Oregon and many back in Orange County but nothing but crickets where my new town is. All the women around me seem to already have their ‘tribe’.

My list for women friends was maybe even fussier than finding a boyfriend!!!

I would not settle for anything less than smart, sexy, confident women that were no one’s pushover. Women that do not judge and lead with their heart’s, but will speak up if an injustice is present. A woman that would rather offend you than put up with crap. No drama, no way, females that are accepting of one another.

With the book coming out, A Man For Every Purpose” that does not dice words, that is forward with life and love. Well, I needed girlfriends with equal footing. No perfect marriages, no perfect life, girls that are real and raw, like my book. Otherwise they would judge. They would judge the fact that I have dated multiple men. The fact that I have failed and tried again to date the same wrong guy over… or worse, a guy just like the last, huge mistake. They laugh at the fact of what is real and they too have walked, with no shame, in morning-after-heels. They laugh that love is not perfect and that it is all worth it. It is worth it! It is love, it is life.

I am so grateful for my posse of gals, the new ones, the ones in Oregon and the ones I left behind in the OC. It only takes three minutes to be back on track with our thoughts and laughter and at times heartache. This is life, and my gal’s pals are great guidepost as to where I am, and to appreciate what I have. Man oh man am I grateful for the girls!

Women they listen, I mean really listen, and use supportive words. I fly to positive words like a moth to a light on a hot June evening. I love to encourage my friends; I love to party with my friends. I never compare myself because that is futile. I love them for who they are nothing more or less. Friendships are a beautiful thing and I know why it took me so long to find wonderful friends in a new town, they are not an easy commodity. They are brilliant, rare with lasting endurance. They are true friends.

My Mantra: “The power of good friends can last a lifetime”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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