“I don’t believe in the afterlife, although I am bringing a change of underwear.” Woody Allen

Seriously! Clearing out ghosts of the past can be powerful. Never put on a bra-pantie set that would remind you of a love-long-gone. I have been guilty of that sad behavior throwing myself on our once love bed in tears. Then I bounced the other way and burned them, the panties that is. There is a middle ground of clearing out the old and preparing for the new that should be done with a light and positive heart.

Let’s get rid of underwear you would otherwise be embarrassed if your lover saw them on the floor. Ditch any panties with holes or stains, just toss them out. Feel good with what you have on under your outfit. The right pair of panties can make you feel wonderful from the inside out. You know you are sexy. When you strip down what you see looks great. You don’t have to have a super model body. Those super models don’t even have that body they have people behind the scenes that airbrush.

Forget that, lets just be the best for our body. Time to embrace who we are at every age, at our body type. By the way, Best diet ever… eat good food, keep your calories appropriate, exercise, stop dieting. Moreover, and not to get off on another tangent, find reasons to like your body. If you cannot love yourself how can you expect to be “loveable”?

Back to your closet. Bras should fit properly, period. They should fit nicely around your ribcage. They should not squeeze fat or cause skin to ride up or down our backs. They should feel comfortable and support whatever our breast size is. Fancy or plain, they need to fit! I have had bras that somehow squished my boobs together, or apart, dreadful. The mechanics of the whole thing is mind boggling.  Thank your bra, engineers.

I have been guilty of hanging onto bras that no longer supported me. I wanted a man to support my hopes, dreams, and heart, yet my bras were not…. It was time to change that! I am passionate about cleaning out the closet to prepare for your dreams. I wrote an entire chapter about it in my book, “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love”. Note the first sentence of the book after the quote, is about Batman underwear… I will share with you that first line of the book.


“I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I’m not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.” Marilyn Monroe

 “I lay here naked, except for my cotton Batman undies, on top of near perfect sheets.” Excerpt from the book “A Man for Every Purpose…

 Prepare for love. Clean out your closet. Read the book, and allow my love journey to inspire yours!

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My Mantra: “Getting rid of old clutter has helped me to find love”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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