“So the pie isn’t perfect? Cut it into wedges. Stay in control, and never panic.” Martha Stewart

When notable times arrive, it is essential to do a personal assessment or a review.

What my year-end review looks like.

This year (I say this every year, but this time, I mean it), I am getting my life in order: self, house, friends, health, and self-care. I am worthy of finding and wanting more, but to be honest, I have had that list many times. Is this a self-reminder????

This year, I have lost my dad. This is the first year he will not tell me I was a surprise baby that he and my mom got a little carried away on Valentine’s Day, then a swift nine months bam, their love child was born…I miss you, Dad. I am grateful for those memories, those endless stories with humor woven in.
This year, I am working with a Life Coach for grief counseling. I am determined to get the hang of grieving. We go through it never to complete it, but I have more to learn.

This year, I am finishing final edits on book 2, which will be birthed in 2025!!!!!!

This year, I am chasing after my health with HRT, Naturopath Doctor, and gut specialist Julia Logins, and moving my body miles daily.

This year, I write down my gratitude daily. This year, I am getting rid of clutter hardcore, oh, I mentioned that this may be a stern warning. This year, I am focused on gardening.

This year, the count of very close friends is on one hand. Weeding out friends clears the path to a healthier existence, which is so important.

My friends support me when I am down and walk me to the other side. They tell it to me straight. They encourage my dreams and show up. I am entirely blessed, and I love my team of sisters. When it is time to get up and show up, those sweet friends will stand beside me as I would them.

Sidestepping toxic people is vital. They call it boundaries; I call it ‘I’m just not.’ When you know better, you make better choices.

This year, I am focusing on joy, love, and security within my marriage. Gratitude and support are tremendous words of affirmation that travel between us as the stressful times become less. It is a marriage, of course; there are stressful times, duh.

This year, I am hitting my bucket list hard and with great intention. This is manifestation at its highest level—the dreams I have deemed important I will not neglect.

Wherever you are, don’t neglect your bucket list, and never set down your dreams.
All of this vanilla-covered self-positive talk is all good. However, I will not kick myself when I am down; I will allow my feelings to show up, even the uncomfortable ones that may be sad or fearful. I will get out my journal and write write write. I present myself with forgiveness and acceptance, all good. As with life, I embrace a less-than-perfect day; I guess Martha Stewart would disapprove; oh well. I am okay with not being okay all of the time. I do still love her. After all, she is Martha.
My Mantra: “Instead of a year review, I’ll do my best daily.”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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