IF YOU DO THINGS HALFWAY, WILL YOU END UP WITH HALF- RESULTS?

“Well begun is half done.” Aristotle

Why throw yourself into any project, be it love, job, parenting, dating, hobbies, grieving, or sports, with minimal effort?

Your results will reflect as much.
Compromising in love relationships may be the stickiest, but it is undoubtedly the one I see most often. It seems to pull on some hidden self that desperately needs acceptance. This begs the question: If you allow yourself to compromise in your most intimate relationship, are you compromising in other areas of your life?

I have seen and know very successful men and women who allow abuse from their partner/spouse/personal life. I would describe it as an intelligent person who does not feel worthy of being safe with the one they chose to be closest to. There is no rationality or logic in crazy mistreatment, never, ever. Nor is there rationality in choosing to stay in a relationship that mistreats you, but many do.

I have been in the depths of wrong relationships until I hit what was my bottom, and then I ended them. It was not a snap—well, not for me. It is more like a slow drizzle or leaking faucet that must be fixed. After I gained the perspective I needed, I took on my lesson with a vengeance. I do not go halfway to healing and then quit; I am a head-on gal. I am more like this must be done or die trying.

I have never been a slight-in gal. I hit things fearlessly in life to understand more, do more, and be on the other side of the not-so-much ones.

Those not-so-much others are sipping sweet tea and dragging on a cigarette without a care. That is not me, and that is not what I am comfortable with. If a life challenge is facing me, I face it straight back; in fact, I may scare it with my stare and fierce resolve. I am bold, brave, and determined to get to the other side of the fucking problem. That is me.

That being said, it has not always, nor will it ever be a straight line; I have held onto issues, and that never served me. I would become ill because my body could not handle the wrongness I was willing to accept.

I have dated and been with men who mistreated me, had family members mistreat me, tried to win over men who did not love me, chased after men, always a mistake, and wasted time on the wrong man, thinking it would lead me to the right one. It doesn’t work like that. My grand resolve seemed to grow, shrink, get shut down, and grow again.

If your search for love, a job, or change has been ongoing and sometimes ridiculous, you are not alone. Similarly, if you are or have been in a relationship that offers unstable, alarming scenarios, you are not alone. Order my book and read it. You will find courage, pearls of wisdom, and laughter.

Writing a book about my love journey is an example of going all in, not giving up, and beating the odds to publish it. I didn’t back down, which defined my albeit brief moment of empowerment.

I would not take no for an answer.

My Mantra: “Finding the courage to want more for yourself takes courage.”