Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’! Audrey Hepburn

It may seem impossible, beginning again… I get that, utterly impossible.

However, when you have gone through the five stages of grief; shock, denial, anger, barging, and acceptance. Those stages may come and go in different order. When acceptance is solid and the tears have dried up, it may be time to put yourself ‘out-there’.

My suggestion would be to fully understand what you did to cause the end of the relationship you choose to be in. This is vital. If you manage to skip that step you may find yourself smack dab in the same place with a different person. This is the universe’s cute little trick to help us learn our lesson. Or from an energetic stand point we are drawing in the same situation in order to heal from the last. All sounds like mumbo jumbo, but truly you need to know how you were culpable. No victims aloud in the love warrior row.

I had to figure out why I continued to attract unavailable men. It took a good guy friend jumping up my grille for me to look at things differently. He told me “It’s not about them. You may think all these guys are the same but they are not. It is about you…you are the common thread. You’re the one who hauled off and dated these dudes. Figure out why”. My friend’s enlightened moment was enough for me.

I sat down with pen and paper and began to write down the different men I had dated or had been in love with. I took me moments to understand that I went for the unavailable guy because he wasn’t going to hurt me or leave me. He was unavailable! I was safe but stuck.

I had to make positive changes to attract available men. I found out there were as many available men as unavailable ones. I had to realize that I was worthy of a solid relationship with an available guy. Any unavailable guy the crossed my path from that moment on was unattractive to me. I no longer needed his approval, I was free. Free to be me, free to love again. Free to set new patterns that were healthier and happier.

How do you love again? One step at a time. There are no limitations on love, only the ones you may have beeen imposing without knowing it. Understand yourself, if you believe you deserve love then love will arrive.

My Mantra: “I am happy my friends boldly advise me. I am grateful that I can see through my own patterns and create new ones”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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