WHY OLDER WOMEN GET EXTREMELY PICKY ABOUT DATING?

“No matter how love-sick a woman is, she shouldn’t take the first pill that comes along.” Joyce Brothers

Good luck, guys. Women really don’t need you anymore. This breed of older women has had their kids, built careers, understood their finances, and know who they are. This self-understanding puts them in an excellent position to decide whether or not to be with a man. They may prefer part-time, a lover, a travel companion, or overnights, or they may choose full-time. ‘Let’s do this,’ because they are the boss of their choices. It becomes the lady’s choice, and the women have stepped into the light.

Is it a take-it-or-leave-it situation?

Show me a room full of fifty-something single women, and I will show you varying degrees of maybes. The men their age, about 50 and beyond, may want what these older gals have to offer. Familiarity and companionship of this older gal, or not. Looking into the water, they may want to see the reflection of their once-younger self. I get it, uh, so do the older gals.

The older, perhaps slightly insecure man may choose to reload and do it all over again with a thirty-something gal. I have seen this guy more than once, and eventually they start to look worn out; the look in their eyes says, “I am not sure; I am just tired.” Going to their kids’ college graduation with a baby on their knee wears me out just thinking about it.
This man is of no interest to the woman who has it all and just wants an addition. They are not looking to reconstruct their life, nope. They want joy, no drama, travel, fun, a stress-free life, or an empty-nesting life. A life that is filled with “I have taken care of everyone; now it is my turn,” without apologies.

I have some smart, sexy friends who fall into the category of confident women who really love the company of men but do not actually need them.

I am married, and we married later in life, in our fifties. That was just right for us. I knew myself better at that age than ever before. We could stand together and bring our strengths to one another. Our marriage is a priority and an honest friendship for both of us. It took me many years, many men, and many heartaches to learn and understand myself. That was the key for me, that was my ticket, know thyself. Of course, we shift and change with the tides, meld with one another, and grow personally. But know thyself! GO LOVE.
My Mantra: “Love later can look just right seen through the lens of standards and possibilities.”