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“Whether you’re throwing up or breaking up, you want your girlfriend right there! I don’t trust women who don’t go to their girlfriends”. Drew Barrymore
It is perfectly normal to grieve the loss of a boyfriend, girlfriend, or significant other. It was where you were. They were the person you showed up for and you loved. It is over, it has run its coarse. The lessons are there for the taking, but that will be later. You are in the sorrowful phase, and that’s ok too.
You are not alone. Break ups are sad. Disappointing, confusing and can cause you to question, yourself and your choices. Cry, get mad, go through the steps to put this into the past. Try to never grieve longer than the relationship lasted.
There must be a time limit on moping. Remember you were the one who chose that relationship. You cannot change the fact that it is over. The only thing you can change is you. Your lessons, your broken heart, your bad choices, your perspective.
You will get through it and if you’re not, see a therapist. Friends are great listeners; they will put up with your moaning about you being on the wrong end of love. However, if that is not working, and your friends have had it with your incessant complaints. It is time to see a professional, it is time to learn your lesson.
Much can be gained in break ups if we dare look close enough. Those moments, that history can bring us closer to understanding ourselves and those around us. Those lessons can help us move on and chose more wisely next time.
I have gone through break-ups more than once. I have initiated the break up’s and I have been on the other side of ‘see-ya’. No matter how it came down I found it disappointing. I always questioned my choices and my lovability.
Eventually I marched forward forever looking for the right love, the one that would work for me. I had to learn how to love myself, be alone with myself, and a deep understanding that I could love and be loved. I know that is a loving mouthful. I never gave up on love, and in the end I did find a loving partner.
I keep record of my love journey of some of the horrific, and benign, breakups. I came out whole, I learned many lessons that I share in my book “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love”. Read it, share with me where your love journey has taken you.
Never give up love is out there for everyone at every age. Let love inspire you, you’ve tried. Now may be the time to take a break, but never give up!
My Mantra: “I found many lessons in tears and am very grateful”