“I’ve been on so many blind dates, I should get a free dog.” Wendy Liebman
Are you a busy dating bee? There is nothing wrong with that. If you find that you have more than one boyfriend, no harm, no foul. Go girl!
The world has opened up regarding dating choices. If your heart is prepared and ready for the next great love, you may have more than one guy you are considering. You were online, and that proved to be the juggling act. Some did not work out past the first date, and then there was that one guy who seemed to have it all. You paused and decided to give him a shot. Meanwhile, you met another man at a friend’s backyard barbeque. He caught your eye right away. You chatted and laughed and easily decided to see each other again.
Should this woman instantly give up one guy to proceed forward with the other?
Not necessarily.
Dating two guys you really like at the same time can be sticky, but if done properly, it may be just what one needs to gather more discovery information.
If she is upfront and honest with each guy, then date away. They have been told the situation is not exclusive yet, so why not?
Women are more independent than they have ever been. Holding their own can be a very sexy drawing card. No needy women here, just ones who do not want to waste time. She is fine with having 2 half-boyfriends at this moment. Being wooed by each in a very different way.
Enjoy, girl; if you are dating one, two, or three guys at a time, have fun. Life is short, and you ultimately know what you like.
Show up, genuine. Most importantly, know your long-term goals because multi-dating has an expiration date. It is like being in a crystal shop full of breakables; functioning deliberately is required.
I have been in those shoes, and I share about my two half-boyfriends in my book “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love.” It was interesting how I was fond of two men who were so very different. I suppose each one brought something unique. I honestly loved both of them. That being said, I knew it would not last; it couldn’t due to who I am. A one-man woman, not to be judged for such a traditional role because, in the end, that is right for me.
I am far away from the dating circuit at this point, but I know that my journey is what brought me to where I am.
How do you know which one to choose? The answer is within you. Who sees you, supports you, and lifts up the dreams or visions you have? That is the one. That plus a real friendship are the key factors.
No judgments on the multi-dater. Dating more than one person does not give you a negative label. It puts you in the dating world of searching for what suits you. There are lessons along the path of love, and the more you can understand yourself, the closer you can get to a spectacular, vulnerable relationship that can take you from one year to the next—if, in fact, that is what you want!
My Mantra: “Being you, dating or not dating.”
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