“I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves.” Mary Shelley

Single women from all over are not just changing our social and financial world; they are revolutionizing it with their achievements and choices.

The stigma of being single has changed. If you are still thinking, Lonely Spinster, think again. Some women are successfully choosing singlehood. The older generation may frown upon this, but no one can stop the snowball that has left the top of the mountain.

Single women now represent 19% of all buyers in the United States or nearly one in five home sales. By comparison, the National Association of Realtors notes that single men represent about half that (10%). The stat for single men has seen little change over the last several years, while single women homebuyers continue to grow. As it is, women are making a financial impact on our world. Statics don’t lie.

In Asia, single women have been called “Christmas Cake.” Yes, that is because they were past their sell date—any woman older than 28! Wait, what? However, the single-and-affluent “Gold Miss” is on the rise. There is some social anxiety with “Leftover” women who show no interest in marriage. What will the traditional families do? To break a tradition that has been standing for years will shake things up.

Singleness is no longer to be sneered at. Never marrying, never having children, or not taking a long-term partner is now a valid choice.


I know several women who are divorced, their children are raised, and they are blissfully choosing to remain single. Options to take a lover are fairly tidy. They have full social lives and do not feel left out or alone. I know a widow who has adapted very nicely to her new normal as a single woman; she lacks nothing and embraces each day; go her! For them, their lives are now finally acceptable according to how our social world is evolving. The single-positivity movement has been pushed as a Hollywood cause; I believe we will see more of this.

Of course, the downside is being alone and feeling lonely. Couple groups can be tricky if you are single. You have to handle everything, from leaky faucets to car troubles and so on, but you can hire out, right? There are pluses and minuses.

Honestly, the most important thing about being a single woman (or a married/partnered woman) is how you feel about it. Are you empowered and happy or lacking?

It is never that simple, but it is life and the choices we make, or some things we cannot control, such as the death or abandonment of a spouse, both huge adjustments.

I am pro-partnership for me. I have been married, divorced, engaged, single parent, celibate for years, a serial dater. You name it, and I may have visited it in my search for true love. I look back on my personal journey with eyes of compassion. I had many lessons to learn, and the stigma of what I thought I wanted to fit into, that perfect world with a husband and white picketed fence, well, I never really did. The suburban world around me looked much differently; that world shone a light on my differences. I was a square peg, and I knew it. That being said, I wrote about my journey in my book, read it, or get it for a friend.
I see my single and married friends as empowered women. Our lives are what we choose them to be, and it is imperative that we put ourselves first.

That will be my next blog! How to put yourself first as a woman, men seem to understand that deal innately.

My Mantra: “Albeit single or married, know what you want and see to it daily.”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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