“If at first you don’t succeed, find out if the loser gets anything” William Lyon Phelps (Quote from: “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love”)


You have more time at home, as you are dutifully following the shelter in place ordinance.

Your computer is right there purring ready to find you a perfect match. Clicking, checking, flirts, winks and other types of reinforcement. You are breezing through what fills you with so many maybes.

Online dating can be like fishing in small pond with endless choices. I always found that a huge menu would send me reeling into anxiety of too many choices. Fearful of choosing the wrong dish. For me online dating was dizzying. A rapid heart beat of making the wrong choice.

You’ve written a short, to the point profile and your current photos are fabulous.

 I would like to say during Covid-19 shelter in place no firsts meetings. Why, because what public place would you meet?

 It is important to have rules for online dating.

You are meeting a stranger. Get to know anyone who may be worthy of your time, through written word, perhaps over the phone. Enjoy the discovery phase.

If you plan to meet, I would highly recommend a public place. Google search them, see what you find. Be a detective! Do not let someone fool you. Trust your instinct.  Look for images of them, Facebook, and google image may lead to photos. Ask them to text you current photos. I have known people to get duped by old photos misrepresenting themselves.

Never leave your drink alone, yes, people get drugged, date rape drug is a real thing.  Tell a friend who you are meeting and where. Those were my rules and I felt safe with them.

Online dating can go very quickly. Meeting one person for coffee and another for wine. I would stack up dates and really did not give worthy time when I was rapid fire online dating. I would be with one, and thinking of the next. Awful, but true, confessions of a woman spinning through the online dating cycle.

All of that being said, a friend of mine just met a man she is crazy for. They met online and right away decided to meet face to face. From what I can see they are a good fit. As that goes, time will tell. Time brings up to the surface our real selves. That is when real love can present itself.

Had she sought my advice I would have told her to wait. I believe they could have come to know one another on the phone and a deep connection most likely would have formed. I hoped she did background search on him.

I think that this Covid-19 time presents possibilities to meet someone new and get to know them slowly. Their words, and laughter all can appear through long winded phone conversations.

My Mantra: “Whatever you decide, be safe, have fun, be yourself.”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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