“My philosophy of dating is to just fart right away.” Jenny McCarthy
I have thought about reviews on dating sites a million times! I am a review reader for sure. Purchasing has never been the same for me if it is online, then I investigate the reviews. Others feedback tip the scale weather or not I purchase something. I look for the stars and start there. I read the review if it fits properly or the screws are a bit too small. The installation time, or the poor packaging. These comments all factor into my decision on purchasing online.
I have had my share of online dating. First dates, also known as meet and greats. Those moments are a time to leave my thoughts behind and just try to focus on the one sitting across from me. Trying not to judge but most of the time it feels like an interview.
If online dating sites had review section, it would never work. Unlike buying clothes or a garden bench matching up with someone is individual. What some may see as a bore or unattractive others may feel are charming and dreamy.
I have been flat out angry with a couple of my dates that were not who they said they were and falsely represented themselves, in many different ways. Some of the men were much older, much heavier, or worse… married.
There should be some sort of ‘foul’ for starting out with a blatant lie. I am sure I would have written a snarky review for all those that would come behind me as a stern warning. Thankfully that is not the case and my damning words stayed trapped inside of me as they should. No one has a right to malign a person they do not fit with. It may have been my expectation that fostered my disappointment, but it was mine no one else’s. I can only imagine what an ex following a divorce may say in their utter disappointment. The scathing review I would have once written in my crushing pain after my divorce. Time takes care of much of those feelings and a moment reflecting on where I went wrong. Love and disappointment in love are a two-way street.
If you are online dating or dating a new person give it a chance to see if it works for you. That is the real ticket. If you are in transition in life, well maybe they are as well. I look for the friendship that can lead to romance. I try to lead with my heart rather than a naked leap into the sheets hoping it will turn out all right. Not judging the naked leap, just noting for me leading with my heart has proven to be more effective.
Online dating is an opportunity to meet a new person that may be just a moment, or a friend, or a great love in your life. You will not know if you do not try.
My cry out to the universe is to give love a try, even if it beats you up a time or two. Keeping the negative reviews to yourself quickly brush them away. Wishing upon others the love they are looking for, if in fact they are looking for love.
My Mantra: “I am happy that bad reviews are left to items rather than people
Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.
Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.