“If you could get up the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.” David Viscott

Maybe you need to feel pissed off for a bit? The wrong choices can add up quickly. What were you thinking with that dude? He was so damn wrong but you went in anyway. Selling yourself short has never worked nor will ever work. Feel mad, then do something about it.

Dating can seem endless. Giddy, you may dive into the two to a six-month relationship only to find yourself a guppy swimming in mad circles returning to the dating pool. Watch out for the sharks, or stop attracting them.

I know it is easier said than done, but if you want to break the forever dating cycle. Maybe go about things differently? They say that the “other” definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

Begs the question, how do you go about things differently?

That depends on your goals. Do you really want to give up singlehood for a partnership? That is a loaded question.

You may think you do, but deep down inside, your behavior may reflect a different answer. There is nothing wrong with being single, whether searching or not. Today you can choose what type of relationship that suits you. I know a super dateable single woman that has, for the most part, been single for nine years. She would love a partner, part-time. That is what feels right for her right now. I get it; she is happy in her familiar.

Yes, you can check the box, you want a partner. You may want children or the right fit to go through life. Whatever the reason, you know that is what you want. Before cynicism sinks in, reflect on your most recent choices. Let go of the anger and disappointments. At least you are/were trying. Take credit for your bad decisions, release them with love, and take hold of the lesson. You picked them, understand why.

A friend of mine says it is a numbers game. However, I think he grew callous about dating so many numbers. He became a bit blinded to what could have been something more. That has become inconsequential, now that he is my husband, but that’s a different story.

Make yourself your priority. Know your boundaries and honor them. Can you be the type of partner that can have hard conversations? Are you able to apologize when you’re wrong? Can you move through conflict with hope? Can you share your dreams and goals with enthusiasm and be supportive of your partner’s dreams? What is your vision for a healthy partnership, friendship, companionship, respect? Know what you want, know what you deserve.

Yes, you need to go through and understand yourself better, a small, perhaps awkward task with big results.

Manifestation is real and ready when you are.

I have lived it, written about it, and am happily on the other side. Read about my dating adventures an antics in my book “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Seachering for Love”. Chocked full of laughter, tears, lessons, and ultimatley hope. 

My Mantra: “Dating is what you make it to be”





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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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