One look at an email can rob you of 15 minutes of focus. One call on your cell phone, one tweet, one instant message can destroy your schedule, forcing you to move meetings, or blow off really important things, like love, and friendship.

Jacqueline Leo

In a world that can access anything in an instant what is the impact on love? Instant coffee, instant messaging, instant photo sharing, instant information. No one waits for anything! Everything is going at a zooming rate. “The Jetson’s” are here and now. However the family that appeared the sixties cartoon depicted a traditional home where dad jetted off to work and mom stayed home.

I’m a pain. I like traditional dating. I should not apologize for that but I just did. Give me a guy that walks me to my car, pursues me, wines and dines me, a guy that will call me. Where I can hear the inflections of his voice, of his day.  Am I out of date the way I want to date?

I was at the Montage in Laguna Beach with my girlfriend. Sitting at the end of the bar was this oh so lovely guy. Six foot six, ten years my junior a forty something. He was drop dead handsome with a full head of hair greying at just the right places. I waited until the perfect moment and went to order my drink from the bartender. Never mind the abundance of staff able to attend to my drink needs. I was working it; I made my move full flirt in action. I lucked out, it was instant, he liked me and our phone numbers were exchanged.

Bada bing. He texted me. Then he texted, then he texted me again. This texting came daily, mostly in the evenings. No call, never a call. I felt put off by this yet my twenty something girlfriend said this is how it is done these days. Even though it seemed lacking to me I went along with it. I mean I am looking for Mr. Right I mustn’t ignore an instant connection.

I conceded agreeing to a text date and met him for lunch. Lunch, well very mediocre with this very good-looking man. He never walked me to my car and I was left appreciating the man that knows how to be a man. I departed wondering, would I have sorted out the miss match many texts later if we had chatted on the phone?

If we can instantly feel attraction for someone maybe we should take our time in courtship and love, just a thought. Back into the dating world knowing a bit more about myself.

My Mantra


“I know my preferences with love and courtship, it is ok to require what my needs are”.


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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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