“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.” Albert Einstein

After all it was just a kiss, just one kiss… How much information can a girl get from a kiss? Is that moment an earmark for a great relationship and chemistry to follow?

Can we really kiss a frog and turn him into a prince? Fairytales live on as the beauty kisses the beast and he turns into a king. Or the prince kisses the beauty as she wakes from her much needed nap. It is all in the kiss the fateful powerful kiss that transforms and entire story into a happy ending. Just one kiss … I am not so sure.

I love all of the chick flicks that have fantasy and romance that would make a normal dude yack. I am not certain if the influence of such tales can lead to confusion and cause unrealistic expectations…or sex-pectations…? After all, reality has a combination of romance and not such sweet moments that are life.

I have had girlfriends tell me that they dated really lovely guys and they dropped them in a heartbeat because the first kiss was so wrong. I have had a guy friend that we were just friends until we decided to kiss, that sealed the deal. I have also had a guy I was dating and the kiss was less than great, as he became tight in his mouth and held his breath. I kept him around but we did not kiss much…Oh and one guy who I had no other reason to continue on with, his kisses melted me into confusion and wanting another. Nothing came of that guy but great kissing.

Do I need to teach a class in this stuff?

I mean take you time. Lean in, hesitate, find your breath and the breath of your partner. Like yoga be in the moment. Soften up and get lost. Do not lose your head it is just a kiss, but a kiss is much more. A wonderful kiss should be reserved for the one you love. Not like in the movies but in your life, in your moment. After all that special one will one day have human moments such as bad breath, illness, or a random flu bug. We should embrace our loved ones where they are at and accept them for who they are, kiss and all. We create the happy ending we want! That is our job no one else’s.


Practice love, practice kissing.


My Mantra: “A kiss is always more than a kiss; a kiss can send love”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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