“I love my husband very much. I knew it was real true love because I felt like I could be myself around that person. Your true, true innermost authentic self, the stuff you don’t let anyone else see, if you can be that way with that person, I think that that’s real love.”   Idina Menzel


Is there an exact science to finding the one and only? Love potion number nine. A proven method that holds true now and for years to come? No. No way.

However, after much research I feel closer than ever at being aware of important things that do factor into true love quest. When I look back on my relationship journey, it gives me many clues into myself. Where I was at in that point in my life had a direct impact on what I attracted at the time. I had had my share of less than ideal situations but why? Is that what I needed? Was that my lesson?

I often times found myself trying to morph into someone to fit the one I was with. Like a well-dressed forever changing chameleon. I am not sure that course of action ever served me because in the end I came bubbling up to the surface. I still wanted those men for their great qualities but having to face that “we” were never a great fit. I was just trying to fit in. Desperately seeking myself in others. Much trial and error I started to get the gist of finding the center in me.

If I have ascertained a formula for true love it would equate to something like this… Finding love in myself, finding forgiveness in myself, finding the gratitude in myself. The “wow” things that I embrace and make me well, me. That alone would change my “vibe” and that is attractive.

Opening my heart up for possibilities beyond my limited list. Knowing that love is the common desire in men and women. If love is the desire than it is universal and mutual. This falls into the category of taking a chance, love is becoming vulnerable with who I am, that is a risk I am willing to take.

Keeping list of things that I am grateful for, and that make me happy. A better understanding of myself will attract what I truly want. Doing things, I love and being genuine with who I am. I may have found true love in me! Badabing!

Much love all around every day, love is something to take one day at a time, and find a way to improve on love just a wee bit more the next day.

My Mantra: “Looking at my love journey I have found true love within myself



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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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