The male is always the pawn in a romantic comedy. Come together, break up, go chase her, get her, roll credits. That’s what happens in all of them.

Matthew McConaughey


What is up with the break up friends around me right now? Is breaking up that hard to do?

A guy friend of mine whom we have been spending a great deal of time with was heading for a justifiable amicable divorce from a quick marriage with wife number two. Clearly a dead bang loser. Paperwork was misfiled, attorney charged three times the proper amount only to change up and inevitably mess up. Divorce day came with no divorce, no closer. So my guy friend notices all these happenstances, and see’s them a as a sign. He feels his heart tug toward this great union that before was going to be a last chapter only to discover there might be more. He reaches out to me in earnest. I listen with the ear and heart of a friend. It is his journey. All that are around him vote unanimously it is time to get over this one. His vote and his estranged wife are the only votes that count. Reconciliation is in the works.

I have also been in a relationship that dragged along month’s weeks days hours beyond what it should have. I knew with great certainty that an end to that relationship would have served us both sooner than later. Instead I remained in what was not going to work. It was tricky and I did not manage breaking up very well.

When to leave, when to stay is all so individual, I know now I am not to judge. Didn’t Elizabeth Taylor marry divorce and remarry Richard Burton? The passion, the drama, only to step back in and finish what life lesson had to be learned.

Weather I am in or out of a relationship that I should be in or out of, I know one thing for sure. Love whenever I can. Fill my days with as much love as possible, surrounding myself with the knowledge that love is there. I hope I have learned to recognize love when it is in front of me and be grateful for what is. Things in life are so fleeting and moments turn into years. Keeping my heart turning towards love is the best thing for my spirit.

My Mantra: “Love whenever I can” “I am grateful for the loves in my life”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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