Masculine and feminine roles are not biologically fixed but socially constructed.

Judith Butler

What is up with girls who will not wait for their door to be opened or allow a man to be a gentleman? Women today have been raised with a go-to attitude; after all, we can be an astronaut, a doctor, or really anything else. We have been taught we have to try harder and do better. In order to achieve, we must overachieve. This is all good and fine emancipation of the fairer sex. Go girls! That being said how does this factor into the dating world of today?

Is it possible to set aside the kick-ass attitude to present oneself as girlie on a date? I say yes, we need to. It is so very important to let a man be a man. Hand him a jar to open and see his reaction. Yes, I said a jar, a simple matter that will for one moment bolster his manliness. After all, men are built differently, and if a guy will hold open the door, insist on driving and feel good to help with manly things, us girls should let him.

My son and his girlfriend went to Las Vegas for the weekend. It is about a five-hour drive from where they live. They partied like rock stars and I am sure had the time of their lives. On the drive home my son insisted on driving. His girlfriend is in a man’s world for work and drives hundreds of miles a week. She asked him repeatedly if she could help with driving. Then it dawned on her, he was being a man. He was taking care of her by driving after the long weekend where they were both tired. When she finally figured it out, she responded as sweet as she could with a “Thank you, honey” She realized it was comforting to be treated like a girl and had to let her guy be a guy.

I have learned through the years of dating, I love to be the girl. I have to think about it because the “A” type personality of mine wants to take over. But in the end, I love, love, love, the feeling of having a man fuss over me in a manly way. It is sweeter than honey and worth being a girl for. Wearing a dress for me can set this stage. These moments when I love being a girl the most are very simply the best. I am so happy I am a girl. Girls, go get your girlie on!

My Mantra: “Allowing a man to be a man makes my feminine energy shine”


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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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