“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time.” Anna Freud


Are you looking for love to fill you up and complete you? No, really, good luck in finding love!

Love is not something you find, nor do you lose. Relationships can be found and lost but not love. Love dwells inside you.

Guess what? Again, love comes from within. It is not finite but infinite. Tapping into the love inside you will direct the relationship you want to attract. If love does come from within, then losing a relationship, albeit sad, you do not lose the love.

Letting the love that dwells inside you pour out. A shiny way to live and attract more love. An abundant love light.

That may be prickly for those who don’t understand self-love, healing and releasing the past. It takes work; I will not lie.

To turn the corner, you may have to seek books, self-healing, do what it takes to tap into your most vital self. Impossible, no, you may want to find the help of a coach, healer, or counselor. Anything that gets you moving forward to heal the love inside has always been there. No one will complete you; no one person outside of yourself is the answer to love.

For me, gratitude can constantly shift me to look up. There is always something for me to feel grateful for, even at the lowest points in my life.

I have had numerous disappointments, gut-wrenching, flat-back on-the-floor moments, especially in love. The lesson are universal, as are the solutions.

Even with my shady history, I loosely traveled into the next relationship without understanding how I was culpable.

After being torn up from the floor more than once, I finally put it all together.

Honestly, writing my love history in my book, I woke up. I could no longer stumble through my love life hapless. No longer could I blame anything that I allowed to happen to me on anyone else but me.

I was free, then what?

Once I wised up and accepted my hand in my love fate, I was able to find a lasting love that all my lessons were right there, allowing me to know love in a new way. We started as friends and rapidly became best friends. I married my best friend, and we are still sharing the love we have inside to one another.

Suppose you do not want to do the work you can always find love, just lower your standards and stick with the familiar. But you know the history of the ordinary so you may want to rethink looking for love…?

If you are looking for love outside of yourself, you have already knocked yourself down several notches. It is not what you can get, instead what you can give—turning around from being lost trying to find the correct attitude that will help you attract and subside with a person who has also seen the love within.

 Like the red shoes on Dorthy in the land of OZ, they have been there all along, you just had to know it.

My Mantra: “Learning to love yourself is true empowerment”


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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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