I’ve been dating since I was fifteen. I’m exhausted. Where is he?

Kristin Davis

There is a whole new ball game out there. Finding a date at the click of a button or the swipe on your phone. I am a hopeless romantic and would love to meet Mr. Right waiting in line to buy a sandwich, at the local farmers market, or a great friend sets us up.

I had this notion that I would not date until I was entirely whole, and completely enlightened. That is nonsense, healing and being whole is constant work. I understand that I will always be on my awakening journey. I accept myself and the ongoing process of awareness I work towards. Dating will not complete me, nor will being in love.

That being said, I am however, ready.

I took a restorative yoga class with a male teacher. He went from student to student massaging neck, shoulders and head. I swear I fell in love, my breathing changed when he touched me. I was mortified, his touch was like an oasis in the desert. I am ready! Without going into a personal add; that I like pinna colodas and getting caught in the rain, put me in coach, I am ready to date.

Do I cave in and go modern to find a love? How about old school? Do I network, legwork, and barstool market myself? Hunting down the rare elusive, and I’m wondering endangered species in a new town???… “the single man”…

It seems everywhere I go I see couples. Or the shiny gold band that sits atop the left hand of an attractive man. Are there singles left that have not marched onto Noah’s ach two by two?

Well yes there are! I am on the other side of that equation so if I am here there must be more of us. It is just a matter of finding one that wants to join the dating world and entry couple hood, with me.

How did you meet your match? I am about to embark on this journey or return to the yellow brick road that I have been on before. What can I take with me this time around? Perhaps just having a clearer sense of myself, an understanding what makes me happy in a love relationship?

Often times I will hear “I hate to date, it is a painful process” Trust me I get that. However it is an honor to spend time getting to know someone new, someone who may want to get to know me. I do not want to date for the rest of my life; I do have an end game in mind. For now this is what I must do. If you have any brilliant advice I would love to hear from you!

My Mantra: “Dating is a fun part of the process of finding love”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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