Sometimes things aren’t clear right away. That’s where you need to be patient and persevere and see where things lead.

-Mary Pierce

I might in fact be getting too good at this dating thing. I have been actively dating for, well, a long time now. That has left me with a greater understanding of men and of myself. I have not yet landed on Mr. Right however I am working at being Ms. Right. That’s what it’s all about becoming the best I can be, really.

When do men pull away from me? Some obvious times would be when I expressed too much love too soon. I blew one guy right out the door with a tearful plea of my heartfelt emotions. He was just “trying me on” for a proper fit and I foolishly babbled about “him having possession of my heart”. I will never forget the terrified look in his eyes and his subsequent backing out. Rookie mistake, in a dating school of hard-knocks.

Another man seems to teeter back and forth in his interest of me. I pull away when he does. This seems to have an impact on him that keeps him in. I give him space rather than question or crowd him. Men love their freedom. This I know for sure. Perhaps that is why the preverbal “man cave” is so widely known. I say let them have their cave!

I cannot begin to understand what it is to be a man. The equipment difference alone baffles me. They run around every day with their sex organs hanging out, or tucked away, but way different then girls. Men factor in many things in order to be relationship ready.

What I know about myself? I want the “man” to be the “man”. I love remaining in my feminine energy it can be powerful, and magical. In todays world there are many times I have to be the boss to get things done. With my guy I would much prefer him to pursue, protect, to give. In that case what is in order is to receive, cherish, and truly respect the man that treats me this way. It is always a dance.

If they run away, I will turn in the opposite direction and follow their lead. If they come to me I will match that as well. I let it be known in the most female way I am able, that I enjoy and feel happy with them. Other fates can factor in like timing. However, when he pulls away, I am patient, but I will do the same. If he comes back it means he missed me and that is always sweet. Patience with love is necessary.

My Mantra:

“Love is Patient, I can be patient with love”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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