“Among men, sex sometimes results in intimacy; among women, intimacy sometimes results in sex.” Barbara Cartland

Men want to have sex right away. I mean why not? They are not thinking this is the one I want to marry. They are thinking this is the one I want to get into the sack. I get it, you are guys. Men would like to have sex first and then figure out if they want to have a relationship.

Women, knowledge is power, this should come as no surprise.

Then there are women, they want to have the relationship and then figure out if they want to have sex.

What I have found out is that many women have sex too soon. Too soon for them and what they really want. These women have vulnerability, slight insecurities that they are wearing like a sweater. A man will sense that and take advantage of those qualities all day long. No fault of theirs it just makes it easy and casual for dudes, and disappointment for dames.

Some women think that by having sex they can get the guy, (Magic Vagina Syndrome), that’s what I call it, as I thought that very same thing, trying desperately to land the wrong guy. These gals will hop into the sheets hoping to change his mind. Women know what they don’t want in a man but sex put blinders in place. Often times women get just what they don’t want.

Read more brilliant insights in my book “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love”.  http://www.amanforeverypurpose.com

How can men understand and embrace women’s ways, and women understand that men are just men?

First off there is a defined moment when a guy decides he wants something different and more. He has sown his oats, he feels good about himself and is in fact ready to become a partner in the sheets and in his life. He is willing to do what is takes to pursue, proclaim the partner he thinks is his right fit. He will make his intentions obvious. At this point he is into you.

How can women understand the way men are? Men want respect, support, fun, safety from being criticized and critiqued.

Girls look at your history and understand what type of man fits better with you and which did not. Pass from the guys that didn’t work. You will not change the outcome with a different dude. Date outside that type it may feel weird, but in the end you will have a better chance.

 Don’t compromise, a strong woman who holds her ground is a sexy minx and a real catch, guys know this.

Every relationship is different. Every love story is different. Some relationship advisors will tell you what to do, and in what order. What to look for and the right amount of dates in order to achieve this. I say nonsense, I do not agree! Falling in love is as individual as the person.

How can we be on this man woman journey and get it right?

Know what you want by taking inventory of your other relationships. Remember you are the common denominator in all of those choices. Stop blaming past errors, forgive them, and yourself. Set out to do things differently. Use your knew found wisdom and your instincts, powerful combination.

When you are happiest being alone the right one may come along. Continue to put yourself out there but have as much fun and joy being without a partner. That is a sexy fact, spending time with someone because you want to, because your life alone is beautiful too.

Clear your path to love. Take heed I had been there before, love can be a tricky wicket.

My Mantra: “Helping others clear the way to love”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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