“No matter what’s behind us in the rearview mirror, it’s always about what’s next.” Dabo Swinney

I will admit I have not correctly placed myself in front of a full-length mirror since the pandemic began. Self-preservation, denial, or grace? Mirror, mirror on the wall…Hush up. I am not asking you a damn thing.

My denial was rooted in the category of, well, my Lululemon’s fit! I put on weight… I had never seen on my body before. But then again, I was not looking, was I? Life is good, humming along my daily routine included walking the dog. Getting vaccinated, wearing a mask, I was doing everything right, or so I thought.

Lululemon, here we go, taking the quick trip to the downtown Santa Barbara store. I met Kate, the mirror expert. I fell in love at reflection; it may have been mutual, she ordered my book…back to the possibilities the mirror could bring.

I honestly felt mad that my weight disappeared in Lulu’s; I think I hid or squeezed behind that fact. After letting go of the illogic that was ruling my thoughts, I ordered Lululemon’s Mirror.

Well, there I was full length and all, no hiding now. Ok, I can work with that, I am in front of me as me. I was happy this was taking place in the privacy of my home. I could be real, I could be raw, why not, here I am.

I started slow, a fifteen-minute yoga stretch class. Followed by a fifteen-minute dance class, go mama. Then because I could, and dearly deserved it, a fifteen-minute meditation class.

I have fallen in love with the mirror and readily came to acceptance of my true reflection. I think that it is vital loving yourself right where you are, in your body, in your age, in your day, in your thoughts, in your misgivings. I embrace that now logic and enjoyed every second of my time in front of the mirror.

The type of self-care that will help me, and I am guessing untold numerous others, from the inside out and the outside in. From cardio to meditation, this is right for me. Begs the question, what is suitable for you?

After blissfully peeling myself off the floor, I got busy. I cleaned out my closet. I know with regular workouts, my body can and will change. However, letting go of things I no longer need seems to be a part of my going forward.

I am a writer, blogger, author. I write primarily about relationships. I deeply understand that the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. When I was active in dating, I was confident that I was in front of the mirror more often, duh. After all, I was on the market, hence was in sales. That reflection of me had to be shiny, eye-catching; nothing less would do.

At this juncture in my life, I hope to balance work with workouts. Many of us sit in front of computers for hours on end. It is vital to move, flex, stretch. Be kind to your mirrored image, and that will reflect a more thoughtful you. Self-love, self-care that is the ticket. What do you do for self-care?

I simply wanted to send a shout-out to Lululemon, Mirror. I’m just a writer, author, blogger that wanted to share. Transformation can take place; you have to step up.

We all can reflect our image, but how about our truth, history, and pathway to what can be better? That is an image worth taking a look at!

My Mantra: “Life is small choices that can make a big difference.”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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