“Sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope”. George Burns

Being older is a game changer. Honestly, “The Golden Bachelor” could not have arrived at a better time. Let’s look into dating past age 50.

You are no longer looking for a man to start a family with. You have been there, done that, and moved past that stage in your life. What is it that Jackie Kennedy said? The third husband is for companionship… Hmm, she may have something right there. What is really important after age 50? It’s not just about him; it’s about you too.

Yes, the dating pool shrinks—the options change. Your choices are a divorcee, a widower, and the still single after age 50, which would be a long shot at marriage. If you want a committed relationship while enjoying your golden years, you are on a different search for love. You are looking for someone to play with, adore, and appreciate as they do you.

As women get older and self-established, they become strong, worthy, and formidable. That alone can intimidate some men. Other men find strong women sexy, alluring, just right. Let’s shoot for that guy; no more wasting time.*If your mindset is that older men only want younger women, that is the type of man you will meet. If you know you can stand toe to toe and heart to heart with the right man, then that is the man you will meet. Part of connecting/manifesting is dependent on how ready you are. Have you looked in the mirror of your history with self and men? That would come in handy before you launch into the world of endless possibilities because there is love at every age!

Now for the men…

What is it that older men are looking for? A nurse, no, that’s too easy; (insert laugh here). Honestly, this is a much closer list with men after 50.

1) Done with drama: Men reach a point where they don’t have to fix things; they want to enjoy each day. This type of man’s mid-life crisis come and gone. He is not looking for a younger woman; he does not need that type of girl. He has had his family and no longer wants to go down that road. He is assured of who he is and wants a secure, happy mate. He is ready for a woman he can trust.
2) Nurturing: Men of all ages see value in this trait. They want to feel safe if they are sick or vulnerable. This is a trust issue; men and women alike need to know they can trust their partner in a pinch. Life is not always fair, and having a strong team counts.
3) Common interest: It is time for adventure, travel, and seeing your bucket list through. The theme is not always a ‘younger woman’; having common interests can lead to the same age category. It makes sense if a man is looking for a forever partner; he wants someone he can play with and who can stand on equal footing with his zest.
4) Independent: This older man is looking for a woman who can handle herself and take care of herself. He has cared for others and now wants to know that the job is over. He is more attracted to a strong person who has figured out life.
5) Appreciated/Vulnerable: Men reach a point where they want to be accepted for who they are, soft spots and all. This is big, almost at all ages. No one wants to be overlooked, disregarded, or redirected. Strong men can handle a bossy lady if it’s one who sees and acknowledges his accomplishments; he is worthy and wants to be seen for the good he has brought to the table. All while feeling safe with his heart.

Men are not too different than we are. They also need to do the work standing in the mirror of their journey. No one wants to be with someone who blames their ex or blankets themselves in anger. Own your stuff and move on to what will work. Repeating relationship mistakes is a thing of the past.

My Mantra: “Love is possible at every age”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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