“Pamela Anderson Lee released a statement confirming that she has had her breast implants removed. Doctors say that Pamela is doing fine and that her old implants are now dating Charlie Sheen.” Conan O’Brien

A table full of women drinking wine and dishing what works and what doesn’t. One gal said she loved that her guy was on time. She felt like that showed respect for others. This list varies as much as taste in food. But when it comes to good guys, the list can be a guidepost. And some of the small things a guy initially does can make or break the way a girl feels. We all hate to judge but we do, this is just what works for some, so here goes…

Guys who pays attention to you. They take mental notes and show concern. They are protectors and want to make sure the tires on your car are good. They will keep you on the phone until you get home safe. Often times this gentleman will open your door. I have been able to open my own door since I was five, it’s just nice to feel girlie and spoiled.

Men who proclaim you as theirs. There is no mistake when you are at a work party or a Christmas party who you are with. This stand-up guy will stick close by and he sends a strong message you two are together. He introduces you to friends and family as his “girlfriend”.

Men who easily pick up the check and want to spoil you. Guys who gripe about how much dinner costs or shows me the bill is a turn off. Dudes who are generous, who want to be the King, and treat his girl like the Queen. I split the bill with my friends. On a date with a man, I love to be treated.

Men who love their Moms and families. Gentle with animals and patient in bad traffic. These are qualities that are vital to truly feel safe.

Men who think you are sexy but don’t push sex on you. They are willing to wait until you are ready. If that is reverse phycology it works! That guy is a turn-on; they will let you decide when you are ready. Panties drop…

I fall deep and fast for guys who are really kind. Especially with words. That wins me over fast. I love words hence me being a writer. I am just learning now how powerful words are to me in an intimate relationship.

The honest dude. Mr. Trustworthy, he is the best. He doesn’t have to hide his text messages and he deletes his internet dating site when he decides you are his. This guy is never startled as you walk in the room because he has nothing to hide. He can be your best friend and you know it. He will tell you the truth even if it’s painful. I love this one, he is a keeper.

The guy whose touch is warm, comforting and electric. The powers of chemistry, that is a win-win. An affectionate guy who softens to your touch is a real plus.

Everyone has different qualities that work for them. It is just a matter of honing in on the right qualities with the right guy. It sounds tricky but as we grow and learn about ourselves it is very doable.

Just like the great guy to drop your panties for, very doable.

My Mantra: “Let’s hear it for the good guys! I am grateful I appreciate good qualities in a mate”


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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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