Look for the bare necessities, the simple bare necessities
Forget about your worries and your strife
“The Bare Necessities” is a songwritten by Terry Gilkyson,


Maybe sometimes life and love can be as simple as seeing to each other’s needs? Is that what every man wants? Good loving and good food?

I am happy for the ridiculous word hanger. I mean it sounds so ‘valley-girl’… yet it makes sense. I am no good to anyone if I am not well rested and fed. Not properly fueled my blood sugar drops and I start to shake, I have trouble making decisions, headaches loom in my future, and can get rather short. Not good or pretty. It is better for me to take proper care of myself eat, sleep, and exercise regularly. This is nothing new. Yet how can these simplicities effect your relationship?

Men, really may be more simple than us girls want to think of them. Many times women over think, over talk, and over stress when there is no need. Men are far more basic, they will protect and love you to the ends of the earth if you take care of some of their needs. Food, sex and a solid nap.

Can that be “the” key to relationship happiness? I am certain other factors factor in however sometimes I think we may skip over the simple bare necessities. If you have a man that truly loves, you and likes you as well keeping sandwich ingredients in the fridge and the proper amount of loving should be pretty easy.

Most guys I ask say “heck yay that is what I want my woman and a hearty snack”. So much of life falls into place when we don’t fight it. Us girls have a tendency to make things more complicated. It is through years of trial and error and many friends, of helping other relationships that I understand that needs are all different yet very much the same.

One of my favorite books is “The Five Languages of Love”. This book breaks down everyone’s love language in a simple way to understand. I highly recommend this read. In a nutshell the five languages are as follows; Acts of service, physical affection, quality time, gift giving, words of affirmation. When you think about it sex and a sandwich covers most of the five languages.

I have dated men that we were great with the sandwich part and not so much with the physical part. As well as having a boyfriend or two that made me see stars yet when it came to a meal together, ehh, no.

If you really like and love a person, the simple things taken into consideration may go a long way towards sustainable lasting love.

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My Mantra: “Simple things in life can help us to appreciate one another”


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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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