“I like writing strong women, because as a straight male, there’s nothing more attractive to me than a strong girl.” Jay Baruchel

If confidence is King, then a strong woman is Queen.

A lost girl who globs onto a dude for a sense of self, security, and direction. A girl who molds into every guy she dates because she is “his girlfriend” is not a strong girl.

Having a sense of who you are, what you like, and what important to you. That is getting warmer to strong sexy. Relationships should be a coming together of two people. One person shrinking to fit is not good. It may be a power trip for the dominate personality but in the long run is a turn off. Or worse the dominate one holds their partner hostage in their life and really never sees them as an individual.

What does a strong woman look like? She is productive has direction and knows the things that bring her joy. She is happy and fine whether her guy is with her, or she is alone. She would prefer to be alone than with the wrong guy. She stands her ground with what doesn’t feel right to her. Men love this kind of a girl. She is not an easy catch and men, well, they are hunters. Men love the hunt! There is power in knowing this. She is confident in the way she looks and understands her love language and what is important to her in a love and romance. She would prefer a partner that can stand his ground and is happy to become a team mate with such a man. She will exit a bad relationship in a heart-beat if she is mistreated. Bye-bye.

It has taken me years and many relationships to find the strong woman in me. Now that I have found her I will never let the strong woman in me go. I know the art of compromise and communication. I have learned the hard way what is important to me. I know what I love and what brings me joy. I can love and accept people for who they are. I can stand my ground without being a bitch. I am able to take time to process things and not fly off when my emotions are hot.

Relationships are hard. The romantic movie version does not account for two real people in the everyday real world with many real problems. Without having a director, hair and make-up, and a perfect set behind me, I’m learning to stay in my strength and do my best.

My Mantra: “I am blessing to find the strong woman in me, I will work hard at keeping her in tack.”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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