A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.

Winston Churchill


Sometimes the truth may be too painful to share. Should you go bold out honest or dance around to protect your friends? My girlfriend saw her friend’s husband with another woman. Does she let her friend know? She has chosen to distance herself from the situation and wants nothing to do with the fall out. She has just gotten too busy to see her friend. Backing away from a minefield one step at a time.

If the truth sets you free then why can it be so hard to hear, or say?

A man whom I adored wandered from our marriage. He loved me, I am sure but when I cornered him he was unable to tell me the truth. It was too painful for him and he did not want to further crush me. Would the truth have changed our fate? I am not so sure. Life takes us in so many directions. He did the best he could at the time and so did I. Divorce can be very sad and in this instant it was. My husband fell in love with someone he should not have. Many years later I have had a similar experience, falling in love with someone I should not have. Love is love it can happen. Thank God I have a heart that is able to love.

Maybe the freedom in truth is being honest with myself? How do I feel? What is my gut telling me? Kindness can rule over truth, I get that. I have to live with my choices. The cool thing about that… I get to live with my choices!

I set out each day with gratitude in my heart. Compassion for others, most of all compassion for myself, that can be tricky, but it is effective. Self-compassion helps me to understand and see the humanity in others. It helps my heart.

Living with lies can make us sick. Everyone has some. Instead of purging all the lies why not accept the fact that I was too fearful of honesty at the time? I am able to let all of those moments go, they are far behind me. I love and accept myself on a perfect journey that has many imperfections. I am grateful for all of the cracks in the road.

My Mantra: “I have nothing to fear in the truth”


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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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