“A bachelor is a guy who never made the same mistake once.” Phyllis Diller

I have blogged social media. I have blogged reality TV. Now I guess it is time to blog “The Bachelor”, the guiltiest of television shows that I can imagine. Spurred on by Kelly Ripa and Ellen Pompeo, criticism draws attention.

The formula is always the same thanks to the writers, script, and careful casting. No actors needed, as the newbie’s follow along with the idea of going to wonderful locations and beating out the next guy or girl, for chance for love, hopeful fantasy suites. Or the slim but gleaming thought of being the staring headliner for the next show. Boo yah.

Many of us viewers gather together with wine in hand to watch this show, a whole nation, hence coined ‘Bachelor Nation’. Do we sit and mock from our living rooms recliners? Of course! With guilty pleasure enjoying how they lead us along like puppets in a matinee. The editors are brilliant. The casting is brilliant, the set, wardrobe and world-class locations, fantastic. A complicated love story, a travel show, with the unpredictability of reality tv. Crossing the lines between sincere moments to utter fantasy.

Part of the famed formula is putting two people under stressful adrenaline situations. That chemically tricks the brain into bonding.  A flight or flight rushing through your body and you’re in love! As the viewers sit back and watch the perfectly outfitted and made-up singles soaring, or dangling, into nerved-wracked love. Amazing!

I love the Bachelorettes not put up with crap from the guys, strong women with boundaries. I do not see Hanna, the current Bachelorette, strong yet, but I will tune in to see if she gets better direction to guide her to boot out the shenanigans more efficiently. Show me some grit girl! Hana’s attitude with finger pointing and marching off, seems very motherly to me and unappealing. However, she is brave to sign up for the made for television journey for sure. I will reserve judgment on Hanna as I will painfully, gleefully tune-in on Monday nights.

On the other hand, very unrealistic having that many possible mates fawning over one person. Gross, I would walk the other way. Seriously I can understand falling in love with two people at once, and I have!… but a whole litter? Yikes, no good can come of that! Once again, a reason to watch, implausibility kicked up.

The cast members all learn the camera and have directions as what to say and so on. Like a grown-up kid’s camp, everything is taken care of and then they let the cast members loose. Part of the magic has to be in editing as they make us see the crazy, focus on the crazy, watch the fights, misunderstandings, heartfelt sobbing, (why didn’t they pick me?), the kissing. Yes, there is a great deal of kissing. I wish I could give a class on kissing, as the ones who do not accomplish a great kiss make me cringe.

I would rather have y ‘all read my book and find awesome entertainment that way. Read why and how I fell in love with two men at one time?!? “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love”

If you watch the show, y ‘all know it is preposterous?!? Go ahead and choose your favorites that the editing sways you towards. There is no intelligence in watching the Bachelor/Bachelorette, that is why we tune in, because we can tune out without a thought in our pretty little heads.

Happy reading, happy watching…

My Mantra: “Strong opinions about silly things makes people notice”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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