“If life gives you lemons, don’t settle for simply making lemonade – make a glorious scene at a lemonade stand.” Elizabeth Gilbert

October 11th was national coming out day. We now live in a world that there is a day for such love bravery. I hope that that day was embraced with genuine affection and acceptance. Ignorant anger is not welcome on a day for love. A heart for others that have a heart for others.

If we look closely enough, we see that love arrives. It can start with a parent, a sibling, a friend. Then bam, the love that books, sonnets, movies, splendid earth-shattering love.

Turning away from pigeonholing the movie of the week here, lets broaden our views in a loving way towards love.

Are you different if your love shows up where it is not supposed to? If you fall in love with the same sex, or the married neighbor, or someone outside your religion or race… Love is love and our heart seems to listen to its own calling.

A connection of the heart, soul, a deep recognition of where you want to be. For what ever reason love can go unrequited in one’s lifetime. Obligation, society, religion, can hold one back from fulfilling their love’s true desire.

To be vulnerable and love bravely can be scary. Once you make the leap it is freeing being able to express who you really are all the way through to your core. To show love to another, whilst being yourself is most excellent. With no fear of losing your family, or your job, or being kicked out of your town, or church.

 I wish I had a magic wand and I could heal the misconceptions of how love is supposed to be. I wish I could emancipate love allowing hearts to shine with their love choices.

I have loved more than once. I have married more than twice. Several different naïve attempts. I was very confused as to what love was supposed to look like. I even wondered if loving the same sex would be right for me??? I could not discount anything as love for me seemed to be a series of hard lessons. Every heartfelt step, and misstep led me closer to understanding myself.

Now years later after raising my children, a whole different kind of love, I have married again.  My perspective is completely different than that of my youth. Gratitude, friendship, kindness, the ability to be exposed, to speak my truth, stand in my own shoes. All those things make the love I am in now, great, nearly perfect.

I do not believe love to be simple, but ain’t love grand?

Be a love warrior, let love in, be vulnerable with your truth. Allow love to be a big love, or a small one.

My Mantra: “Changing my childish views towards love, has made love evolve”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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