“I think you can judge a man by the size of what offends him.” O. T. Fagbenle

Ok, it is fair to compare the size of a man’s, uh, manhood?

Honestly women care about other sizes as well. If you don’t understand this already, take notes. The size of a man’s heart, compassion, integrity, kind words, success, generosity, fair fighting, quick to make up and acknowledge their fault, affection, loyalty. I am just getting started!

I know that chemistry in the bedroom is important to fully bond two people together. But before that naked moment, check the other things that matter most to you. Why rush into the sheets? Okay, I am well aware that is an arguable point. People rush, people wait, I get it. I am just advocating that many factors factor in when it comes to lasting love.

A loving heart can see good in many people and different scenarios. If you have been in love more than once and have dated, you may understand seeing the best in others can work for, or against you. Those moments of clarification that he is really a good guy are selling points, for me.

I have been in some sticky situations with men that were not a fit for me. I learned to really get to know myself, my boundaries, my unnecessary compromise had to be put asunder. I understand what my love language’s are and how those languages factor into a relationship. “Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman.” It was not only about what I like, but what I don’t like.

I am a words girl all the way. I have been with smooth taking dudes that didn’t or couldn’t offer me much more. Like being sold a bill of goods from a used car salesman. I learned that words are wonderful if they are backed up with truth and action.

As for sizing up a lover in the sack? No two lovers or combination of lovers are the same. Tenderness and intimacy or throw down? They can both be wonderful and very different. I know, for some of us, it takes being with a person several times to become comfortable and trusting. After all some of us are shy naked!

 If your sizing up your partner; make certain you size up what kind of partner you are. Do you know your partners love language? Are your expectations, and sex-pectations in tack?

To fully love with a precious heart to thine self be true. My book is very raw and real and is enlightening others who are reading it. Available on Amazon now. “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love” By Katie L Lindley.

My Mantra: “I am blessed to understand what really matters in love, to me”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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