“The new year begins in a snow-storm of white vows.” George William Curtis

Relationship riddles with friends and lovers with rules and breaking them. All sorts of life agreements, standards, and love, lie between people. But how about when you meet a person you want to make life long promises to? Then what? Make your own rules? I like that idea, I suppose those rules would look different for every relationship.

This is the season of weddings, where a marriage begins. Then what? Well there are the vows that are spoken and uttered, promised and repeated. Do newlyweds pay attention to their vows?

Some women treat a wedding like a prize. They are the Queen that is primed and coiffed, buttoned into a special dress, the most expensive dress of her life. Emotions and drama, expectations, it’s altogether a big ado. An interesting tradition to kick-start a lifetime.

I have had a wedding or two, big party, lots of expense. Photos that ended up being ditched because the marriage sadly ended. The utterly deep bitterness that burned those very expensive photos. I had to heal, I needed to learn.

 Marriages fail, marriages work.  I have always been interested, well in both. Relationships fascinate me. Why do people choose who they do? Why do people create the same drama over and over? Questions like that drive me to want to know more.

Marriage vows have not changed many in years. It is a legal contract recognized by the government, family, friends, neighbors. Bam! Your married. They say that being married means you are to put your spouse above yourself. I have recently heard no. That is not correct. Be first.

Be first to say I am sorry. Be first to say, I love you. Be first to plan a romantic moment. Be first to speak your honest feelings, good and bad. Be first to hug or kiss. Be first to show gratitude in your heart and actions. Be first… if love and partnership is your goal, why not make it a competition?

Love is about saying you’re sorry. Love is about speaking your truth. Love is about kindness.  Love is hard work, love is not lazy, it is about being the best of yourself. for your partner and being grateful for who they are. That may mean being kind to yourself so you are able to show great love to your partner.

Be first to show patience and that will help you to become a more patient soul. If you can be first in this manor with your life, and love that shows a great deal about the way you hold your head and carry yourself. You can walk in confidence because being first means you are a person that knows your own great reward comes from being first in being positive helpful and kind.

My Mantra: “Exposing my love journey in my book is helping others with theirs!”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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