WHY SELFISH WOMEN ARE SEXIER?

“I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I’m out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” Marilyn Monroe

Hey guys, do you want a woman who prostrates herself and is everything mum was and more? NO, you don’t, I swear.

Selfish. This trait we (us gals) have all been told from an early age to avoid, lest we repel others.

Being selfish can help us become more attractive, empowered, and sexier, which are positive aspects that should not be overlooked.
Have we been trained to disregard behavior that is ultimately unhealthy? Ladylike may be well served at the dinner table but harmful when dating or marrying the wrong man or hanging out with the wrong friends.

Being selfish makes you realize you are not here solely to please others; being polite, agreeable, and accommodating when it makes you feel bad inside. Listen to your gut if the situation makes you feel ick, stop. Know your worth; don’t tolerate what feels wrong. That does not mean being rude or aggressive; it means putting yourself first. That now feels good and empowering; you cannot only say no, but suddenly, no feels better.

Every time you choose between disappointing someone else and yourself, allow your call of the heart to disappoint someone else.

In finding yourself, know your limits, standards, and when you want a break. Oh yes, the ever-so-popular boundaries come in handy here; it is the intentional ability to step back and reroute, no apologies.

Begin with loving yourself, knowing what brings you joy.

Try writing down what makes you most happy every morning first thing. Head to the mirror and remind yourself how much you love you. Learning to love yourself begins right where you are now—following your heart, calling, passion, and the simple things vital to you.

Self-validation is much more important than the validation of others.

Remind yourself it is good to break old patterns set by society that are not best for you.

Women often mold or shrink to fit to glide into a situation or relationship that behavior is highly acceptable in our society. We sense what way to go, and off we head, leaving behind self, of course.

News flash: nothing is sexier than knowing yourself and loving yourself. No compromise, no sorry.

Do you have a routine, hobby, or habit that brings you back to the center? That is the space you need to hold for yourself.

Our emotions are natural and help us interpret our environment, so we need all of them—even anger, fear, envy, resentment, and heartache. Anger teaches us about how to set and maintain our boundaries. Grief teaches us what we value and how to find meaning in loss. Fear teaches us about how to protect ourselves.

Shifting may not be easy, but highly valuable, as women have always been told that being selfish is one of the worst things you can be.

Becoming self-focused will change your life, but maybe not in the way you think. Being selfish, loving yourself, protecting your energy, feeling all of your feelings will free you, energize you, reconnect you, and make your life richer. Give it a try and see for yourself.

Fall in love with who you are and what you want; celebrate that. Keep a morning journal to see your progress and growing strength. Work on self-reflection, your personal history, and what you can do to improve.

Being selfish is not about ignoring the consideration of others; it is about understanding what works for you. That in and of itself teaches you how to love harder, fuller, more profoundly because your center is safe.

My Mantra:”Being selfish helps me feel sexy.”