I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I’m out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.
Marilyn Monroe

Space, yes, that means that the person wants to distance him or herself from you. The dreaded sentence I believe most daters have heard it before. They don’t need space! They need space away from you. Someone needs to come up with a better break up line. Oh the second worst break up line has got to be, “It’s not you, and… you’re great, it’s me”. How is it not you? It is you they are breaking from.

Getting dumped is never fun. No matter how sweet the goodbye is delivered. Please never break up via text message, unless of course your entire relationship was a text relationship, then your losing a text love. I’m not sure how great of a loss that is. It could feel great; it is still a loss, text grief. Or a post-it-note, or just ignoring the one you used to love, bad form.

I have been dumped and I have broken many a hearts. It sucks no matter what package it is wrapped in there once was love and now there is not. There was once chance, dreams, visions, continuity, and companionship, hopefully. Losing love, growing apart, changing partners, and reentering singlehood. Commonalties many of us share.

On the road of discovering myself I have had many relationships that seemed different from one another. Yet seeing how I was in all of them, I’m not so sure about that. I have never been great at breaking up with someone and I have a tendency to want to keep all my past loves in a friend box. To open up now and again.

Too bad it cannot be as simple as leaving with acknowledgement of good times shared giving grace to the fact that two people can change and do.

If you need to break apart from a person you once loved and maybe still love but know it’s best to part, do it with dignity. If it is really truly over, anger will not be a part of goodbye. Those of us who want to march towards a love that is more honest to our heart, I say solider on! Life is short and love is so damn precious. Love whenever you can. Choose love, your heart will guide you. Stop with the bad break up lines, we can all do better.

My Mantra “I am lucky to have known love, it is good to be sensitive and honest with my loved one.”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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