“I’m looking for love. … Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t live without each other love.” Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and The City


The be-all to end-all of love. Knowing that that one person is who you want to be with. A certainty, that does not have to be perfect but has to be that one. Begs the question, do we only get one true love?

I think that we can have more than one great love in our lives. As we are ever-changing so can our partners.

I have had those huge love feelings at different times in my life, with different men. I have had more than one great big love. What happened with those men from way back when? Well, they were the men at that time that meant the world to me. None of those men will be a significant part of my future, but they outlined the path that was my journey.

I do not feel as if divorce is a sign of failure. Some marriages just have a time limit, for whatever reason. Love can be whatever we choose it to be. It can be heartbreaking to lose a loved one, no doubt I have known that mess of pain.

What if you chose to empower a love that is fading? It is altogether possible. The empowered woman can rekindle a love that will make her husband fall in love with her all over again. That is not an urban legend or an impossible task. It is a shift. Appreciating your husband or partner, knowing their love language, gratitude, top that off with self-healing and love, bingo! Rekindling at its finest.

Lessons in love. Can you observe lessons from the love that you have had? Can you walk away knowing yourself better and being able to tweak what really works best for you? I have fallen down skinned my knees, wailed over the loss of love, but I eventually got back up.

If you are half the love, could you be half the problem? Note to self, look into that question.

I had to, look and I looked hard. I am all about love, and I would not allow the loss of what I thought was forever to throw me into becoming permanently stagnant. Being stuck in the loss was not going to be my story. I got serious and wrote down what went wrong and why. I looked at myself, where I messed up, where I could have done better, I absorbed the lessons as if the lessons would save me. I read the books, I did the work, I kept going. Shoulders back I was on a love quest. I took all of this loving knowledge and dating journey and wrote about it for others to learn from and not feel alone. A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love” is a modern dating story that is cheeky and ultimately wise.

Knowing that cannot live without impossible love was sure as hell possible. I am a never give up gal, and I would not give up on myself. After all, I was the common denominator in all of my relationships.

Do you want an impossible can’t live without love? It is there for you.

Love confession: I am well aware I can live without my husband, I just don’t want to, he’s the place that I want to be.

My Mantra: “Never give up on love, big or otherwise”

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Katie L Lindley

Although I would like to say I am organized, focused and cookie-cutter, that simply would not be me. I am no different than any other woman in the world. I love to love, love hard, and, in the end, have learned to love myself above all else. So here I am, writing about the many men and the multiple purposes they have served in my life. Realizing that not one man on my roster had fulfilled every single one of my needs. Perhaps one man is not supposed to? I have compiled snippets of the men that have entered my world. In the end, they have shoved me towards my bathroom mirror, forcing me to take a better look at myself. Reflection is brilliant and the strongest guidepost into ourselves.

Working on the next book in the series “A House for Every Purpose, My Journey From Pillow to Pillow” revels a woman abandoning her home in search or her identity beyond men, motherhood, author.

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